Marianne,

Reading your post, which I love, the part about good and bad babies reminded me of what I love to tell expectant and new parents about good babies.  I like to tell parents that your defination of a 'good' baby changes as you have more children.  A few weeks after our 3rd was born my cousin (who had 4 kids) called to see how things were going.  I told her how he was different from the others, he cried whenever he was wet (diaper or shirt from drooling) or had a dirty diaper.  She quickly said "What a good baby!  That's so much better than a baby who sits in a dirty diaper until they get a rash and you feel like a bad mother."  After you have a couple you really learn that the 'good' babies are the ones who let you know when they need something.  So therefore all babies are good babies.

Felicia Henry, IBCLC, BCCE
Oxnard, CA

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