I asked for ideas to put across ad lib feeding to parents. Thanks for some great ones! Cue feeding is okay, but it doesn't get across the idea that you don't have to wait to be 'cued' to feed your baby! I will use it, though. I love the idea that all those 'S' words are cues - brilliant idea for a class to help them remember, thanks Deborah. I think it is so important to get over the idea that you don't have to wait until the baby is yelling to feed. I often see babies squirming and squelching etc in their bf mother's arms, and the bossy part of me longs to do the yelling - 'for goodness sake, feed that baby, why dontcha?' I restrain myself though....: ) I do hint gently if I am in counsellor mode...if I am in another situation (family gathering, party) I can't even do that, and boy, it's frustrating! You can see the mothers jiggle, rock, pass baby round, do song-and-dance routine....as if they would rather do *anything* except offer the breast. As if offering the breast is a sign of weakness, 'giving in' to the baby....Sigh. I like the idea of feeding when your baby is thirsty. I will use that, too. I sometimes use the example of the partner coming in from working outside on a hot day and asking for a drink of water....no one would say ' no, you can't - you only had a drink an hour ago...' But is there a term which encompasses the normality of feeding just because you want to, *or* the baby wants to, or either of you just feel like it 'cos you like it? ! Heather Welford Neil NCT bfc Newcastle upon Tyne UK