Chanita, It may just be semantics, but you are not supporting bottlefeeding - you are supporting a mother's informed choice to bottlefeed. It is a shame that this mom feels as she does, perhaps with experience, baby-love, normalizing hormones, or therapy, this mother and her baby may still have a chance. Your support of her educated decision may allow her to change her mind without "baggage" in the future. Even if she doesn't, you fulfilled your role as a BF supporter beautifully. I have posted privately to someone who may have some insight on how these moms can be helped. I hope she is able to reposnd. All the best, Judy Fram,. Brooklyn, NY