Hi Nicole, Liked your post. A thought. Do you think that perhaps women separate from their children because A) deep down they are afraid of the intensity of the feelings these children bring on, and perhaps they don't want to be as attached as these feelings dictate, and B) that's the way they were treated. Most of us (brought up in the era of bottles & schedules and a polite kiss on the forehead) were separated from our parents -- remember when playpens were the norm? They've simply been replaced by baby buckets.... Jan B. PS - Bob will review for JHL. Send stuff.....