Katherine, That poor mom! No support from the hospital staff! Thank God she has you and Morgan! Sounds like she needs to get out of there as fast as possible! I have known many many women who would do "whatever" the hospital staff told them, so that they could meet the goals the baby needed to meet to be discharged home. (pumping, giving formula, giving bottles, not co-sleeping in hospital) She can totally say, "I understand your trepidations to my parenting style and see the rationale to your suggestions and am going to adhere to those". That gets "charted". The staff pats themselves on the back as having "saved" another life. Baby gets discharged. Mom then free to mother her child as she intends to. Period! If we ALL did this ALL the time, it would be a great disservice to the change that needs to occur in the institutions, but when you deliver in a "not so baby friendly institution", you can suffer a prolonged stay and more unnecessary interventions. In this particular scenario, I would suggest compliance so that a quick and timely release would occur! If they bring up the fact that her 2.5 yr old still nurses, she can say "oh, I am weaning him!". That's not lying, he is weaning. They don't have to know it could take a couple more years! Warmly, Linda Hill RN, IBCLC - who learned to pick her battles *********************************************** Archives: http://community.lsoft.com/archives/LACTNET.html To reach list owners: [log in to unmask] Mail all list management commands to: [log in to unmask] COMMANDS: 1. To temporarily stop your subscription write in the body of an email: set lactnet nomail 2. To start it again: set lactnet mail 3. To unsubscribe: unsubscribe lactnet 4. To get a comprehensive list of rules and directions: get lactnet welcome