In my experience, this need to control the baby and child is NOT NEW - my MOTHER read and followed the tight schedule created by Dr. Spock and others in the 40's and 50's.even to the point of putting me down in a crib where I cried until I threw up. She was overwhelmed when she came to my home and saw how I handled my babies - but instead of criticizing me, she supported me! Mothers have ALWAYS had a lot of demands put on them - when they weren't working outside the home (my mother was a teacher) they still felt they had to "control" and "discipline" babies. That was one of the big messages that I heard (in the 70's) ONLY from La Leche League: - Babies will be babies, - BABY the baby, - there is a reason why your baby.. .and most of all: this is not "forever". No matter how much we work as IBCLCs to improve "breastfeeding" - it is the attitude about mothering and infants that needs to me addressed at the same time, otherwise moms try to "breastfeed like a bottle-feeder" as a mom once described to me. We need to communicate the need to "bottle feed like a breastfeeder" instead! Maybe that's why Baby Friendly is adding education to formula feeders to their 10 steps. Jeanette Panchula, BA-SW, RN, PHN, IBCLC California, USA *********************************************** Archives: http://community.lsoft.com/archives/LACTNET.html To reach list owners: [log in to unmask] Mail all list management commands to: [log in to unmask] COMMANDS: 1. To temporarily stop your subscription write in the body of an email: set lactnet nomail 2. To start it again: set lactnet mail 3. To unsubscribe: unsubscribe lactnet 4. To get a comprehensive list of rules and directions: get lactnet welcome