Judy The UK recommendation is the safest thing is to share the parents room for the first 6 months Would she be interested in hearing this do you think? http://www.dh.gov.uk/en/Publicationsandstatistics/Publications/PublicationsPolicyAndGuidance/DH_4123625 Helen LLL England From: [log in to unmask] Subject: sleeping and AAP recommendations Hello all, Another situation where mothers just don't get the info they need from appropriate sources, or can't/won't hear it. Mom with 2 month old who stopped breathing over the weekend while just being held on parent's lap. Baby worked up in ER, no findings. I remind her that it's good baby is in bassinet in bedroom since baby's sleep best and most safely in sensory nearness to their moms. Mom's plan after the apnea incident is to transition baby to crib alone in another room. I explain she might want to reconsider the timing of that since sleeping nearby is much more likely to be safer, especially if baby stops breathing again. She counters ( as she always does with everything I say, she once told me she couldn't consider CST for her baby's feeding issues because a baby in Europe had died going to an uncertified practitioner....) that it wouldn't matter because she isn't awake all night watching the baby anyway, so she still wouldn't know if the baby had stopped breathing. I say that whether awake or asleep, their bodies are talking and responding to each other, and just being nearby makes it less likely, but no nothing is guaranteed. She is concerned that she will "never get the baby to be independent" if she doesn't move her soon. I tell her that highest risk of SIDS is between 2 and 4 months, and she sounds like she might actually consider not moving the baby out so soon. If I didn't know this mom, having been working with her for weeks, I wouldn't have pushed back as hard with the countering and ongoing info, but I thought, if something happens to this baby, and no one told this mother that she might have made a difference by following the AAP recommendations ( which have no real information attached to them in terms of timeframe so moms keep the baby nearby for a month or two and then it's out they go, but they're better than not having any at all...)... well I felt I owed it to her. We often disagree, and I do my best to be respectful of her choices, but I can't not tell her what she needs to know. So far, she has not stopped talking to me...:) Thanks for letting me vent. Peace, Judy Judy LeVan Fram, PT, IBCLC, LLLL Brooklyn, NY, USA *********************************************** Archives: http://community.lsoft.com/archives/LACTNET.html To reach list owners: [log in to unmask] Mail all list management commands to: [log in to unmask] COMMANDS: 1. To temporarily stop your subscription write in the body of an email: set lactnet nomail 2. To start it again: set lactnet mail 3. To unsubscribe: unsubscribe lactnet 4. To get a comprehensive list of rules and directions: get lactnet welcome