Many years ago, someone somewhere was talking about spoiling babies. Someone said something along the lines of, Food Spoils, Babies Don't. I have used that over and over again in the years that I have worked with Moms and families, in many different ways. I tell them we even put the food in special keepers, and it still spoils, but babies have needs, just as we do. Luckily, a little girl lived across the street from my family, and she was an only child. According to my family, she was incredibly spoiled, and, indeed, by the time she turned 16 her parents had bought her 5 cars. But, my point was, that as a young adult, she was just fine. She was pleasant to be around, worked for a living, married a hard working guy--all the things Americans use to weigh what a person is. She was also a great person to be with, and extremely nice. Most of us know someone who seemed very "spoiled" as an infant and child, and usually they are just fine. I think they must have gotten something they need--as we all strive to give our children. Take from this whatever might help--it has helped me with some nurses, some parents, some grandparents and some just interested folks. To be honest, I really don't think the problem is "spoiling" but the problem is not setting limits and using "loving discipline". I could go on and on about this subject, but it would turn into a rant. I'll go back to lurking... Sue Kasten Dexter, Oregon, USA--and we got the Winter Wonderland for New Year's Day! *********************************************** To temporarily stop your subscription: set lactnet nomail To start it again: set lactnet mail (or digest) To unsubscribe: unsubscribe lactnet All commands go to [log in to unmask] The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(R) mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to: http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html