Nikki You probably said this to the mother, however I wanted to mention that I find it very helpful to validate the mother's fears that the baby was 'starving.' I would suggest saying something like "that's pretty scary when you see that the baby is still acting hungry and you feel you are not giving him enough milk. If I thought my baby was hungry I'd feed him too." I find most mothers do interpret their babies feeding cues correctly. Most mothers can see when the baby is bf well and comes off sated. Even though he wakes again in an hour or two he seems quite happy after the feed. This is not always the case, however, sometimes the baby is lethargic and not pooping and this is misinterpreted as content. It is why we ask all the questions about full breasts, softer after, pees and poops etc. I let the mom know that it sounds like she really did want to breastfeed and that we can work together on getting there, we will make sure the baby does not 'starve.' Mothers who have had a bad experience w/ a jaundiced, poor latching baby who was re-hospitalized etc will be very very fearful of bf the next time, even if she gets good help and has a good latch etc. This is a very scary thing for a mom, to think she is starving her infant. I hope she returns to bf and enjoys it. << She said she'd stopped because baby was hungry all the time and she didn't have enough milk. I replied instantly, "Oh, I am so sorry to hear that. What happened?" We discussed it some more. Sounded like she was misinterpreting baby's feeding cues as signs of insufficient milk. I asked her to please reconsider, that she was making an important health decision for her baby, as important as using a carseat.>> Laurie Wheeler, IBCLC, MN, RN New Orleans Louisiana, s.e. USA _________________________________________________________________ Have fun customizing MSN Messenger — learn how here! http://www.msnmessenger-download.com/tracking/reach_customize *********************************************** To temporarily stop your subscription: set lactnet nomail To start it again: set lactnet mail (or digest) To unsubscribe: unsubscribe lactnet All commands go to [log in to unmask] The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(TM) mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to: http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html