Again, responding to a post a week old, but couldn't resist. Pamela mentioned: " I also explained to this father that giving the baby time to become successful at the breast and to wean from the nipple shields would take time and would improve the duration of breastfeeding mom desired for their baby." I wonder if putting it in terms of what the mom desired for the baby would be counterproductive is such cases. If there is any resentment, doing something to make the mom happy just might invoke a negative rather than positive response. I think it would be better to keep referring to the breastfeeding in terms of what it does for the BABY in these situations. Perhaps it would be more effective to say. "imporve the duration of breastfeeding to allow for the maximum mental and physical development for HIS baby" Talking about how formula could compromise his son's ability to 'be the best he can be' is much more likely to be listened to than talking about what mom wants when he might be motivated (consciously or unconsciously) to want to interfere with what the mom "wants". Winnie *********************************************** To temporarily stop your subscription: set lactnet nomail To start it again: set lactnet mail (or digest) To unsubscribe: unsubscribe lactnet All commands go to [log in to unmask] The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(TM) mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to: http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html