>When I was being trained to work with high-risk families, this was mentioned. We were told that every time we made a family visit we should point out something positive in their life-style, parenting, etc. I remember one of my sister trainees asking, "What do you do when you can't find anything positive to say?" When I find it hard to say something positive about a mother's parenting style, Ilike to say something positive about her baby. Now don't shoot me, please, but there ARE babies who are not as cute as others. That is when you will hear me say something like "What a pretty and unusual name you gave your baby! Is it a family name?" Norma, who is not best known for her tact :) Norma Ritter, IBCLC, in Big Flats, upstate NY, where the temperatures are still in the 50s and 60s. Hello? This IS December, isn't it? _________________________________________________________________ Get your FREE download of MSN Explorer at http://explorer.msn.com/intl.asp *********************************************** The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(TM) mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to: http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html