Andrea posted a very heartfelt message on being done helping mothers who've made poor choices feel less guilty about it. I understand that reaction too! But I think that enhancing women's self-esteem, including a recognition of their ability to make a better choice another time, may increase the chances of a subsequent baby getting breastfed. In particular, I think it may increase those chances more than would a response which communicated, however subtly, that the BF supporter judged the mother and found her wanting. And to accomplish this, I think we may have to help women at least put a name on their guilt. If you need to, afterwards (and we all will at times), go rant to a colleague, but then and there, with the mother who's trying your patience, Think Of The Greater Good. regards Rachel Myr *********************************************** The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(TM) mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to: http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html