Schedules:
After reading all the wonderful posts I'd like to share a different slant
on the subject:  my son was on scheduled feedings because he never
"demanded" when we left him to his own schedule.  He was small when born,
and he was so mellow that he'd go every 5-6 hours before there would even
be a whimper!  By then he was sooooo hungry that he started sucking
incorrectly and there was a lot of *pain*.  In desperation I called the
hospital LC and was told - "demand only works when the baby *does* demand".
Sure enough, after going to feeding every 3 hours during the day (still
"demand" at night) the suck and pain cleared up in 3 days!  Sometimes a
mellow baby needs some help reading the clock I guess.  Anyway, my point
was that there is a use for scheduled feedings, but the attitude should be
that of increasing when needed rather than decreasing for convenience.

Dads:
As for fathers and bottles, Jan wrote about the rule for dad that he is to
snuggle as long as a nursing would take - well my husband not only does
that, he "switches sides" (his term) mid-bottle (of EBM, of course) and,
when I get back from my meeting he tells me how the baby "nursed" (again,
his term).  But then, this is the man who got up with me EVERY SINGLE night
feeding to change the baby and bring him to me after I'd gotten my water,
etc.  By the way, he also walks down the mall saying "can you BELIEVE that
woman is giving that baby FORMULA?????"  and goes up to his pregnant
coworkers and says "you're going to nurse, right?"  What a gem!

Linda Volkovitsch, [log in to unmask]
The lucky wife of the "nursing dad"  :-)