After a NY Times Valentines Day article excerpted below, this author now has
a front page expanded version of trying to be Supermom in the current
newsstand issue of Newsweek.  She writes regarding BF & attachment
parenting, which she did.  She makes some valid points of trying to have it
all, which is definitely a cultural aspiration in the US.

Judy Ritchie

 

I Love Them, I Love Him Not

from

http://www.nytimes.com/2005/02/14/opinion/14warner.html?th     for the full
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With the widespread acceptance of "attachment parenting" - family beds,
long-term breast feeding and all the rest - the physical boundaries between
parents and children have worn away. Marital romance has dried up. Real
intimacy has gone the way of bottle-feeding and playpens. In fact, the whole
ideal of marriage as a union of soul mates, friends and lovers that's as
essential to a happy family life as, say, unconditional love for the
children, has taken a direct hit. And in its place has come the reality of a
utilitarian relationship dedicated to staying afloat financially and
child-rearing of a sort we tend to associate with frontier marriages,
arranged marriages, marriages of convenience - marriages far removed, in
time and place, from our lives, our parents' lives and even our
grandparents' lives.

 

at the end author Judith Warner says

It's because the roles we're playing - Supermom and Superdad - are
love-killers.

 

 


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