YIKES..why is it LC families often meet up with so many  challenges!   
 
Ilene,

Ten months ago I was the live in LC for 11 days for my daughter  in law and 
son. Three things happened.  Jaundice peaked at 16, mom  developed mastitis 
on d 7 and I learned something about myself...that I had  absolutely no 
objectivity. I know my kids appreciated and depended on  my advice but I was an 
internal wreck even though things were mostly  going well and I was dealing 
with the types of situations I see day  after day at work. I don't think 
David and Alison ever knew I was nervous.  I worked very hard to present a 
calm,  encouraging demeanor. But--had things gone south I'm not sure I could  
have been very effective. I found myself over reacting (internally again) all 
 the while I tip toed around what I would have just matter of factly  
advised  a couple I was working with.  It does sound like you have  some cause 
for concern.  I would find the best LC where your son  and daughter in law 
live and pay for a consult for them.  Then  you could be involved in supporting 
the plan they agree on.  The end  of my story is that after 11 days I went 
home and my sweet grand daughter went  on to exclusively breastfeed for 6 
months and is still happily nursing.
 
 I do think there is a reason why physicians genrally will not  treat their 
own family members.  For us LC's, as well, I think it can  be fraught.  We 
have so much invested in having breastfeeding work, we're  helpers and 
nurturers by nature and then we throw in that unbelievable bond  we have with our 
children and objectivity goes out the window. I know at  times I wished I 
was just a clueless grandma who could provide emotional support  and follow 
the expert advice of someone else.
 
 
I wish all of you the best and know that I appreciate how you feel.  It's 
truly hard to be so close to the situation.
 
Kathy Boggs, RN, IBCLC

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