There used to be, as part of the Lactation Consultant Series modules published by LLLl, a pamphlet called, IIRC, Helping  the Mother Whose Baby Has Died.  I don't think there was anything about donating the milk of the bereaved mother to a milk bank, but this module came out in the 80s when most US milk banks had closed.  It was excellent though. I used to have a copy which I gave to a midwife at my OB's office.  I don't think I replaced it although I had intended to.

I think that groups dealing with infant death better serve, in general, these families.  I remember going to a meeting of Compassionate Friends.  There was one young couple who baby was stillborn. There was another mother there who had lost a young adult son to Muscular dystrophy. I could tell that this woman was somewhat dismissive of the grief this young couple felt.  I never went back.  Among their peers of other parents who have also lost babies, they are less likely to have their feelings dismissed.

I did not donate my milk as that was not really a possibility in 1988. I did hand express some to relieve any engorgement which peaked on the day of my daughter's funeral.  I thought of it as my body grieving for my baby.


Warmly,
Carol Kelley,  Breastfeeding Counselor,  Upcountry SC Chapter, Breastfeeding USA
Taylors , SC, USA

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