I think there is a logical explanation as to why some psychologists, and
related professionals, come out against attachment parenting,
co-sleeping, etc.  I remember many years ago one of the talk shows
featured Tine Thevenin (The Family Bed author) and a psychologist.  He
was saying something like "But I've seen patients with severe
psychological problems who slept with their parents as children."  Of
course, this was his reason for saying co-sleeping was not good for
babies.  The important point is, he only sees people with problems.  He
can't extrapolate a behavior he identifies in someone with a problem as
that problem coming from that behavior.  It gives no credit to the large
number of people with the same experience who do not have problems.  I'm
sure you could look at a lerge number of patients and come up with a
statement like, "I see a lot of people who wear green shoes who have
problems, therefore the green shoes are the cause."  The other point is
that even the best of behaviors can be done for the wrong reasons.  For
example, you might find a mom who puts a baby/child to the breast
whenever it stirs so she can concentrate on a TV show, comversation,
book, etc. and doesn't have to give full attention to the baby.  I'm
sure there are parents who use co-sleeping, along with other
questionable behaviors, for sick reasons.  It's the motivation and the
whole parenting approach that's the problem, not a particular behavior
in and of itself.  Just because a person seeking psychological help had
a particular experience does not in and of itself mean that experience
is the cause of the problem!

Winnie

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