I am so happy to see Henya`s message. Where is our rule about not being
judgmental. Those of us who are blessed with children conceived without
assistance cannot possibly understand the anguish of couples who suffer
years of fertility problems, treatments, hopes and disappointments. When
that wonderful miraculous day comes when the treatment works and a pregnancy
is sustained how heartbreaking would it be to deliberately abort any of
those babies. It is true that medical advice is logical - give some of
those babies a chance to live or possibly lose them all. But the heart says
something else.
In Israel we see many large families, sometimes with as many as 12 children
but they are not all born at the same time. While I am not part of that
ultra-orthodox community I do work with them and I am so impressed by their
family values.
These parents of the octuplets deserve our praise for their bravery. I hope
they get support, not in the form of media exposure (remember the horrors
endured by the Dionne quins!) but by friends and family, neighbours and
volunteers. I wish I lived near them - I wouldn`t mind changing a few
nappies a day!
Wendy Blumfield
----- Original Message -----
From: "Henya KnitMammy" <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Wednesday, January 28, 2009 10:50 PM
Subject: Re: Octuplets to be breastfed!!
> Hello , may I say something positive ?
> I happened to know a couple who after not having children for 12 years
> went
> through the fertility treatment and had seven. They re principles and
> religion would not let them do selective reduction . There was was so much
> pressure to reduce that they left Russia and went to Israel for the birth.
> All the babies are now fine , they are 3 years old , no subsidies , no
> freebies , no nervous breakdown. Just 2 people grateful to be parents.
> Henya Kazatchkov
> Brooklyn N.Y.
>
> On Tue, Jan 27, 2009 at 11:52 PM, mumma2wldthings @mac.com <
> [log in to unmask]> wrote:
>
>> This story about octuplets being born in Ca. will be splashed around the
>> papers for about a week, and, then when it's old news, the celebrating
>> will
>> be over and the nightmare will continue for this family.
>> ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
>>
>> oh, i don't know that it's all doom and gloom and dire circumstances for
>> this family. i bet you donuts to dollars they are the overnight celebrity
>> stars of a reality series like 'john and kate plus 8' & the duggars and
>> their 19ish children. then they'll get loads of money to be filmed around
>> the clock, free diapers, junk food, formula and minivans - - and we can
>> all
>> sit and be titillated at how those 8 babies are not only being raised
>> deprived of a normal gestation, birth, breastmilk, bonding time w/
>> parents
>> and optimum health, but also a complete lack of dignity and privacy as
>> they
>> grow up on camera. won't that be great ?
>>
>> i don't know how many ppl see me w/ my 5 kids and immediately ask if i
>> watch either of those shows or follow the exploits of either family. i'm
>> aghast at being compared to them. to 1st of all risk the babies' lives
>> and
>> lifelong health w/ fertility treatments to have so many ... then to
>> obviously not be able to breastfeed them and further disadvantage them...
>> and then to film their entire lives w/out their consent and exploit them
>> for
>> financial gain ... and as far as i'm concerned once you've had more than
>> 15
>> or so, (said tongue in cheek here) you're not raising them anymore,
>> they're
>> raising each other. they're lucky if they even get to have a one-on-one
>> conversation w/ you once a week. i'm all for big families, but not when
>> it
>> risks someone's life or health - and maybe even dignity - w/out their
>> consent.
>>
>> ~jacqui gruttadauria, bsw
>> who was smart enough to realize her limits by 5 w/in 7 yrs !
>> www.myspace.com/mummaTOwldthings
>>
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