>I always tell the folks in my classes "your baby doesn't know s/he's 
>not a baby gorilla."  Babies think they can hang with with their 
>gorilla-mommas, feeding non-stop, whenever they want.  They don't 
>know woman-momma has to 
>do-laundry-cook-dinner-answer-e-mail-send-out-out-x-mas-cards.  The 
>more new mothers can behave like momma-gorillas, the happier the 
>baby is.  Ever seen an exhausted baby gorilla?
>
>So my wrist bracelets say WWGD?
>
>Eva


I sometimes talk to mothers about their babies really being 'cave 
babies' - for most of human existance it has not been possible or 
safe to put babies down (in a separate room) to sleep, but babies 
don't know things are different in the 21st century.

However, modern-day values have an answer to that. Modern-day values 
may accept the baby emerges as a cave baby/gorilla baby...but it's 
the parents role to *deliberately* and *consciously* disabuse the 
baby of the very idea that he lives in a cave.  To fulfill this role, 
the parent 'teaches' the baby to sleep alone, and that crying to be 
held and cuddled will not get a response. The baby who learns this 
quickly is a 'good' baby and his mother is a 'good' mother.

:(

Heather Welford Neil
NCT bfc, tutor, UK

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