>  What I seem to find though is that the mothers who tried to
>breastfeed but "failed" because of all the non-support we have in
>our culture don't see it as a failure of the system to support them.
>They see it as personal failure and of course that's not something
>anyone wants to talk about or be reminded of so nothing is said.
>
>Sally Myer RN, BSN
>Nebraska  USA


Yes, that's my experience, too.

Worse, though, and sadder,  is some mothers then actually feel very
angry (and I mean *very* angry) towards people who support
breastfeeding, and any 'breastfeeding has health benefits' message,
and even other breastfeeding mothers...and even people who tried to
help them (maybe they didn't help them very well, of course).  They
accuse these people of 'making me feel guilty' . For an example of
this, see this thread on a UK talkboard:

http://makeashorterlink.com/?Z1C4425A4

How can we turn this righteous anger and disappointment towards the
people and the systems that deserve it?

Heather Welford Neil
NCT, UK

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