In a message dated 7/1/98 12:06:10 AM, you wrote:

<<so how do the rest of you convey to a mother that the doctor is wrong?
perhaps
discussing techniques will help us to deal with this even more tactfully.>>

As we are empathically/actively listening to a mother's story, we may notice
that she suspects the advice she was given was incorrect, or not the best
advice. Often a mom will ask me if what was recommended was the right thing to
do. As I may or may not be getting the whole story, I am likely to carefully
tip toe on eggshells, saying something like " You did the right thing in
seeking out information and guidance because you were rightly concerned. If
you asked five different doctors you may get five different right answers.
There's almost always more than one right way to deal with a challenging
situation or solve a problem. If you get different information from different
people and it seems conflicting, try to pick the answer that feels the best
for you and your baby. Keep asking until you get the answer that feels right
for you and your situation.  As things stand now some options
include...........".

Document and have the mother discuss plans with doc.

Deborah Tobin RN BSN IBCLC LCCE
Springfield, Virginia USA

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