I know this has been discussed a lot lately but...have you looked at yeast?
Please, don't get me wrong.  I don't want to down play the sexual abuse but
some of the symptoms you mention sounded like yeast to me.  I recommend "The
Yeast Connection and the Woman" by William G. Crook, M.D.

I also wanted to comment on the ongoing discussion of milk sensitivities.
We had a mom attend our last 2 LLL meetings.  She's on baby #3, all had
colic symptoms and blood in stool!  She tried no dairy with all with little
releif.  Well my co-leader suggested wheat and lo and behold ALL symptoms
disapeared!  Let's not forget that there could be something OTHER than milk
that the baby is reacting to, including perfumes and/or deodorents (spelled
wrong).

One more thing, there was a questions posed in regards to detoxing while BF.
I've been waiting for our herbalist in Sedona to respond...haven't seen
anything as yet.  While I was going the herbal route for severe psoriasis
and arthritis my herbalist said NO DETOXING WHILE BF even if nursling was 3
years old.  There are some mild things that can be done herbally over a long
period of time.

That's all for now.

With LLLove,  Jill