HI All,
I am troubled by a comment I so often hear by women who have attempted to
breastfeed and for whatever reasons it didn't work out.  The comment is "
Oh, my baby is so much happier now, he/she is now so contented, he/she is a
changed baby".  These women say and imply that breastfeeding (and the
problems) had a negative impact on their relationship with their new baby
and now that they are bottle feeding they are so much "closer and relaxed"
with their new baby. I understand where these mom's are coming from and I
respond with support to their new feelings . It's odd that I almost feel
guilty, As if my help and encouragement really only contributed to their
poor relationship with their new baby.  It seems as though the problems
some women have with breastfeeding = a poor relationship with the baby. It
hurts me to think that these moms blame breastfeeding for a poor or
unsatifactory relationship with their child.
 What do you all think of this response from a woman, how does it make you
feel, what do you say to them?
Thanks
Star Siegfried, RN,BA,ILCLC