>I have a young dyad that is confounding me and would like to get
>some wise words of wisdom from your experience. It may be long-ish,
>but I will try to keep it as brief as possible. Permission to post.
OK - I know I am posting from a different culture with different
expectations, but I am really taken aback by the amount of
intervention that's happened before you saw this mother & baby,
Angela....mother got a nipple shield very early on (could she not
have been helped to get a position that was effective and
comfortable?) and the baby had formula, and was then given three
(three!) meds - and the mother puts herself on an elimimation diet.
:( :(
And all this in the first weeks :(
The whole lot - shields, diffculty latching, baby in apparent pain,
clicks - points to the 'horses hooves' of poor positioning and
attachment rather than the 'zebra hooves' of just about anything else
:)
And now the baby has had sessions of PT, and the doc is suggesting
rice, apple juice and goodness knows what else....sheesh. Family are
putting pressure on, and the mother is hardly eating anything, so
probably feels overwhelmed and stressed by it all.
Forgive me, you may have tried going back to basics, but this is
certainly what I would do (though we would not have a baby quite so
medicated in the UK, I don't think).
Does the baby *need* the meds? Does the mother *need* the shield all the time?
Can she really try biological nurturing *properly* - nice and calm,
in the bath or in bed, letting the baby find her own way, no
pressure.....
Would the mother consider discussing dropping the meds with her
doctor and just devoting a few days to 'babymooning' and nothing
else? If the baby is still having formula, then obviously this would
need to be reduced.
Heather Welford Neil
NCT bfc, tutor, UK
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http://www.heatherwelford.co.uk
http://heatherwelford.posterous.com
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