Norma,
It is very sad, but I am so glad my parents did what they could. Sharing my 
 family was a very powerful experience for me and has impacted my life  
forever...
I think it might be easier when you consider that if attachment parents  
don't participate, what does that leave?
But, it does explain why even those children who do find good, loving  
foster homes - have a difficult experience and continue to ffeel isolated.
I do now have an adopted sister who rejoined my family in 1991, after being 
 in our home as a foster in 1978-80.
Good parenting also has positive ramifications, and some children do find  
loving families again - on their own...
Laura
 
 
In a message dated 2/3/2011 8:05:29 P.M. Central Standard Time,  
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I just  read Laura's list of some of the restrictions put upon foster 
parents.
The  tragedy is that those of us who practice attachment parenting with our 
 biological children - giving them a normal, healthy upbringing - would 
find it  all but impossible to bring a foster child into their home.

How can I  hug my biological child while my foster child looks on with 
hungry  eyes?
How can I respond to my biological child's need for comfort in the  night 
but ignore the same needs in my foster child?

I am  horrified!
No wonder foster children have the highest school drop-out  rates. 
They are emotionally deprived, not allowed to form attachments, and  then 
we expect them to raise healthy families of their own?

I do not  have the words to express how strongly I feel about this. How 
could I have  lived so long and not known what was happening all around me? 
What can we, who  are not social workers or politicians, do to stop this abuse 
of power by  foster agencies? What strategies are most effective in 
educating them about  raising emotionally healthy children?


Norma Ritter, IBCLC,  RLC
Breastfeeding Matters in the Capital Region
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