When I was pregnant with my second child, _every_single_woman_ in my 
playgroup had had an unplanned cesarean.  It was very, very hard to 
emotionally "permit" them to have made their own choices and not feel 
almost guilty about mine (2 uncomplicated homebirths) while we all 
waited silently for my due date.

It's like when we feel guilty-ish (anybody have a better word) for 
having smooth breastfeeding experiences where others have hurdles.  
Sometimes it's related to choices and sometimes it seems to be the luck 
of the draw.

At our birth group, when moms initially introduce themselves, we are 
able to predict pretty easily who will need significant extra 
postpartum support.  It also gives me a very strong clue as to who will 
be calling me for breastfeeding help, so at least I can establish a 
relationship prenatally so they don't hesitate to call after the birth.

Lynn in MO

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