In a message dated 11/11/2003 12:43:45 AM Eastern Standard Time, [log in to unmask] writes:

> Oh, by the way, did I fail to mention that this
> is an IVF baby and the twin died in utero....hmmm, perhaps mom failed to
> mention that during the short hospital stay....does this
> complicate matters?


This mother of twins ((MOT) may also experience some grief vs. attachment re: living twin and dead twin, which also may include some guilt (even if undeserved). I hope someone shares with her info re: CLIMB (Center for Loss in Multiple Birth) and/or LIMBO (Loss in Multiple Birth Organization). Both are available via the web.

I'm glad breastfeeding her surviving twin has turned the corner and is going well. This can have a tremendously positive effect re: grief -- whether present now or hits in a delayed way.

Karen

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